Posts by Susan Shehata

Can Experiences Be Toxic?

  Why are we willing to believe that exposure to toxic chemicals can cause cancer, but we can’t accept that exposure to a toxic experience can do the same? When we experience trauma, the subsequent feelings can linger in our bodies, for the rest of our lives. These chronic feelings impact our nervous system, and…

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Be Responsible with your Voice

  I am in the market for a new wool rug, so, I have been reading online reviews. I began to notice a through line… The reviews are riddled with comments like, “Terrible rug! Won’t stop shedding!” and “I had to return this rug because there is something wrong with it. It’s shedding all over…

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Anxiety is Not An Emotion

Yesterday, I read a post about emotions being neutral, a concept to which I also subscribe, and recently wrote about. The post mentioned how if you observe emotion without judgment, the emotion passes, or transforms into something else. Someone made a comment on the post regarding anxiety. She mentioned that she lived with anxiety for…

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Are You Giving Away Your Power?

  Perhaps you are afraid. Perhaps you have prescribed to one of the following: “There are those who seek to hurt me and the people I love. The government is contributing to this threat.” OR “There are those who seek to hurt me and the people I love. The government will save me from this…

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Can You Be Overly Attached To Trauma?

  Yesterday I posted about the importance of not suppressing trauma. So, today, I want to talk about indulging the feelings related to a past trauma or being attached to past trauma. Now, I hesitate to talk about this, because it can easily be misconstrued. I would NEVER put a timeline on any person, because…

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Are Suppressed Traumas Causing you Pain?

  Do you experience the symptoms of anxiety or depression? Do you have any physical health challenges? If I were to ask you if you had experienced trauma, what would you say? Many experts in the field define trauma as an event that left you feeling disempowered. If that seems like a really large spectrum…it…

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Emotions are Neutral—even the uncomfortable ones

  I have seen several references to “negative emotions” lately. Socially speaking, we have a way of labeling any uncomfortable emotion as negative. And, from my professional perspective, I feel that is damaging to our well-being. I believe that ALL emotions are neutral—there is no such thing as good or bad emotions. Emotions are simply…

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Can Despair be Productive?

Productive Despair   Interesting phrase, isn’t it?   In the last week, I have had a number of clients, and friends, that feel completely overwhelmed. They feel that perhaps things will never improve—how will they ever overcome the patterns of their past, or perhaps a recent loss or challenge?   Whenever I see a theme,…

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Why Do We Freeze and Lose Our Voice During Trauma?

People often ask why a victim didn’t just leave a situation, or why they didn’t speak up, right away—or why the victim’s story wasn’t cohesive. So, let’s talk about Tonic Immobility and Broca’s Area, and I’ll keep it (relatively) brief, so the next time you come across these statements from people, you can whip this…

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Are You Resistant to Healing or Just Trying to Protect Yourself?

To paraphrase one of my mentors, “Trauma happens in a split second. Everything that happens, after that second, is a survival strategy.” What that means, in essence, is that when we are healing trauma, we are actually mostly healing our survival strategies. These “strategies” are responses, beliefs and behaviors that came in to protect us…

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