Are You Resistant to Healing or Just Trying to Protect Yourself?

To paraphrase one of my mentors, “Trauma happens in a split second. Everything that happens, after that second, is a survival strategy.”

What that means, in essence, is that when we are healing trauma, we are actually mostly healing our survival strategies. These “strategies” are responses, beliefs and behaviors that came in to protect us from experiencing emotional and physical pain.

But, the strategies hang around far longer than they are needed. Most of the strategies are not in alignment, or appropriate, for our everyday life, so they eventually limit, or even harm, us.

Examples of limiting survival strategies might be putting walls up in relationships, lying to avoid pain, getting sick to be cared for, avoiding situations that remind you of a specific trauma.

And even though we want to heal, the last thing we want to do is give up our survival strategies—after all, they kept us safe once. So, the illusion is that they still keep us safe.

People ask me all the time why someone would be resistant to healing. This is one of the main reasons. Most of us are not consciously resistant to healing. We are subconsciously attached to our outdated survival strategies.

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Susan Shehata

Susan Shehata, also known as The Space Guru™, is a Mentor, Guide and Performing Artist, who specializes in helping people release hidden obstacles. She does that through Space Consultations, Holistic Wellness Services and through Music & Theatre. Though her offerings are varied, the goal of her work is the same: to clear the deep patterns of resistance in people's lives. Susan has been a professional performer for twenty years and a certified wellness professional, focusing on transformational healing and space work, for fifteen years. Her life’s mission is to use her voice as a performer, speaker, writer, healer and mentor to assist in global evolution.


  1. shelley rae on December 11, 2017 at 6:53 am

    before we are able to give up those outdated coping skills, we must learn some new, more effective in the present day, ones.

    • Susan Shehata on December 14, 2017 at 1:55 pm

      Absolutely! That’s imperative. Thank you for reading the article!

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