Unmet Needs: a holistic perspective on crime

By Susan Shehata / June 8, 2020 /

Putting my trauma educator hat on, I want to talk a little bit about unmet needs, because I am hoping it will expand your perspective.   We have collectively been taught to think of human beings through a binary lens of “good people” and “bad people.” This way of thinking permeates every aspect of our…

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Self Work for Social Change

By Susan Shehata / June 5, 2020 /

Wherever you are right now, I guarantee you are running into Unresolved Grief, Anger, Shame and Victimization.   In the last week or so, maybe you’ve found yourself having difficult conversations with people—either in person or online. Maybe you’re running into a whole pile of feelings or resistance—either in yourself or in others.   So,…

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A Gentle Trauma Reminder

By Susan Shehata / June 2, 2020 /

You, your family and your friends are experiencing a response to a collective trauma.   In your communications (online and in person), remember that people are responding from different trauma responses: Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Flop   If you or others are being argumentative, defensive or combative, that may be a Fight Response.   If…

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Confusion is the Name of the Game

By Susan Shehata / June 1, 2020 /

(Please note: this post was written in the context of the murder of George Floyd and the uprising that began in my neighborhood. I share it here because the point made has broad relevance to this time period)   In our world, we encounter fiction disguised as fact and fact disguised as fiction.   Confusion…

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The Hierarchy of Processing Trauma

By Susan Shehata / June 1, 2020 /

Are you freaked out, right now? Scared? Uncomfortable? There are plenty of reasons to be. But in all of our own feelings, we can easily lose sight of who is at the center of the story.   I just saw a post about a group of white women “discussing” the current climate around their Black…

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On the Nature of Trust

By Susan Shehata / May 12, 2020 /

Trust.   It’s an interesting concept. I see many people struggling with who and what to trust, nowadays.   I completely trust my best friend. I trust her love and compassion for me.   And I trust her to be about ten minutes late to most things.   I used to think I couldn’t trust…

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We Don’t Know How This Will Turn Out

By Susan Shehata / May 11, 2020 /

What if we just don’t know how things will turn out?   I tend to remember my dreams in great detail. They are often a combination of imagery I’ve picked up over the course of a day, plus the processing of subconscious material. Lately, I’ve noticed a theme where during the climax of the dream,…

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How Your Parental Relationship Impacts Your Freedom of Thought

By Susan Shehata / May 9, 2020 /

How might we move towards free thinking and truth finding, if that is our goal?   From my experience, one of the best things we can do is fully heal the relationship with our parents. WHAT?? Stay with me. 😉   Most of our first thoughts and perceptions were passed to us from, and through,…

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Are You Replacing One Talking Head for Another?

By Susan Shehata / May 8, 2020 /

Our world contains a lot of corruption.   That being said, some of the content I see circulating online nowadays concerns me.   I’ve never been what would be considered a mainstream thinker. But some of the alternative viewpoints sound just as dogmatic and problematic as some of the mainstream narratives.   I am witnessing…

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Fear: Quick Tips

By Susan Shehata / May 6, 2020 /

Chances are you have been experiencing fear. Here is a brief overview on how to walk with these feelings, as they continue to emerge.   ACKNOWLEDGE All emotion is neutral, including fear. Fear is simply communicating that something does not feel ok. It seeks to protect us from a perceived threat. Our job is to…

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