Create a Grown-Up Calm Corner
In this collectively stressful time, it is important to have things that help regulate your brain and body at your fingertips. This is a prime example of creating a space that better supports you.
Regulation refers to the fact that when we are stressed, or triggered into past trauma, our nervous system goes out of balance. This results in restlessness, anxiety, irritability, pain and various other manifestations. Regulation is what we can do to get us back in balance. There is self-regulation, where we provide ourselves with what we need and there is co-regulation, which is when another person helps us come back to balance (such as a parent/child or a partner, friend or professional).
Your Calm Corner can provide tools for regulation for both yourself, and, if relevant, your whole household. This is often something that people think of for children, but adults need this, as well. And, in fact, if you had your own, you might be surprised how much that naturally helps your kiddos, as they are often just processing our stress (more dramatically!).
Why a Corner?
Well, really, most of us have things all around our homes that help us with comfort and emotional regulation. But creating an intentional space, shelf or corner in your home means that you know EXACTLY where to go when you get out of sorts. So, items can live in this area and be easily accessed when needed or provide visual prompts. Or this can be a specific area where you stay to decompress. Or both.
What should I put in my Calm Corner?
This is completely up to you, of course! You likely know best what you or your people need and what works. But here are my suggestions for things that would either go in the area or get stored for easy access:
Salt lamp or other low lighting
Fountain or fish tank (water sounds)
A weighted blanket
A fuzzy blanket
Small sensory objects, like fidgets, clay, smooth objects that are nice to hold (think worry stone, stress balls etc.)
Noise canceling headphones
Face roller, dry brush, bath salts (to grab and use elsewhere)
Yoga blocks, foam roller, yoga ball
Uplifting books: poetry, humor, spiritual, etc.
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